Oh Facebook. That social space we all hate to love, love to hate.
I’ve had exactly that kind of relationship with Facebook ever since I joined back in 2008. While there are myriad reasons to love the platform—staying in touch with overseas friends, seeing photos of relatives and their offspring, knowing exactly what all your contacts are up to on any given week—there are even more reasons why Facebook is the devil.
I am completely biased in my opinion, namely because Facebook has caused the demise of at least three friendships. It’s sad, really, to think a simple “like,” “friend,” or “unfriend” could cause such catastrophe, but the truth is, they do.
I quit Facebook for a long time a few years ago after my first Facebook-related friend drama, and was perfectly content to be off the Facebook grid, so-to-speak. But not long after, I wanted to create a Facebook page for G&G, and the only way to manage it was through an existing profile. So back to Facebook I went.
Today, I officially parted ways with my personal Facebook account when I discovered that I could now manage my page with a simple email login. I”m not going to say I won’t miss some people and I’m kind of sad about that, but unfortunately, as you probably know, once you accept that invitation for friendship, recalling it can be extremely problematic.
My G&G page is still up, for those of you who like see new posts in your Facebook home feed. But for me, I’m out. I have deleted the app from my phone, and have officially deactivated. Goodbye, Facebook. Sayonara.
This is why…
- Since Facebook is a written medium, gestures, intonation, and facial expressions (beyond the emoticon) are lacking. Which leaves a terrifying amount of room for interpretation and miscommunication. Trust me, it’s bad when that happens. And it happens often.
- Football game play-by-play status updates. Just kill me now.
- All the mudslinging and political posturing posted around election time. You know what happens when die-hard conservatives and die-hard liberals start posting…the claws come out.
- The whiners…I used to be one of them, I’ll admit. When I was in Oz and super homesick, Facebook was my only outlet with the time difference (and Skype wasn’t on mobile phones yet). I learned my lesson about that after one friendship blew up due to a whiny, misinterpreted Facebook status update, and then I saw just how irritating the daily whiners can be years later when some appeared in my own feed.
- Candy Crush and other game invitations and updates. And those stupid Bitstrips that were popular for a nanosecond.
- The people who ask questions on Facebook that they should just Google themselves.
- The people who obsessively change their profile pictures and cover photos. Seriously, have you nothing else to do?
- Friend requests from people at work, or a friend of a friend you met that one time. Don’t accept and you’re a jerk. Accept and then you spend the rest of the “friendship” restricting their access to your updates or photos because you don’t want them knowing everything about your private life. And you don’t really care to know about theirs. It’s a nightmare.
- The “in a relationship” with someone else on Facebook status updates. I can see how teens would love this, because they don’t have the “is engaged” or “got married” life event. But grown people? Proclaiming they are a couple on Facebook? Really?
- I don’t need one more thing to check obsessively. I have Twitter and Instagram for that. 😉
How about you? Love Facebook? Hate it? Has it caused you any friendship/relationship issues?