I’m not someone who spends her time lamenting things done in the past, because if you focus on the past, then you live in it. But now that I’m—ahem, middle age—I kind of wish I could send a letter back to my younger self so I’d know NOT to wait so long to do these things next time!
1. Change my hair color.
I spent most of my 30s wearing my hair long and dark (which it is, naturally, grey aside). While it suits, change is good! And hair can be changed back. Why was I such a chicken about it? I’m loving my new cinnamon-colored streaks and get compliments on my hair all the time.
2. Leave that toxic relationship.
I am a serial monogamist, and the type of person who gives way too many “second” chances to people who don’t deserve them. I wish I had left relationships and friendships that sucked me dry years before I actually did. But then again, I found my wonderful hubby right when I was supposed to, so all is not lost.
3. Invest only in investment bags.
Why did I wait until 41 to suddenly acquire a taste for Louis Vuitton? I could have amassed a killer collection in the last 20 years of buying, at a fraction of the cost. Investment bags aren’t just gorgeous and well-made…handbags from brands like Chanel and Louis Vuitton hold their value like nobody’s business.
4. Read labels. On everything.
It’s shocking to think about all the chemicals I’ve put in or on my body, assuming just because it’s on a grocery store shelf or is touted as “natural,” it’s safe. WRONG!
5. Get completely outside of my comfort zone.
Back in 2007 or so, as part of my Power Vinyasa yoga practice, I signed up to become certified as a yoga teacher, to deepen my practice. The curriculum shocked the stage-fright right out of this girl! Well, not permanently (and I have not practiced yoga since 2008), but forcing myself to do things I was not comfortable doing was the catalyst for great, positive, sweeping change in my life.
6. Let go of fear.
Fear of failing, fear of looking stupid, fear of making a fool of myself, fear of being alone, all of it. What you fear, you create; it’s energy you put into the universe, so make sure it’s positive. As soon as I let it all go (due to #5 above), things happened. I achieved, mentally and physically. I rid myself of stagnation. And in the process I found confidence, discipline, and the love of my life.
What about you? Is there anything you wish now that you had done sooner? Why?