Seven Deadly Sins Series: PRIDE

To the uninitiated, blogging—especially about yourself and your life—may seem like the ultimate example of excessive self-love. But really, it isn’t (or doesn’t have to be). Blogging is nothing more than sharing your opinions publicly; we all share our opinions in real life every day. Blogging just expands your reach and allows you to share with people you know and people you don’t.

PRIDE

Of course, there are some bloggers who really are full of it. I mean FULL OF PRIDE. They’re the ones with the diva attitudes, who rarely say thank you or acknowledge followers outside their top tier. They only share their own posts; their Instagram feeds are stuffed with photo after photo of their faces, gratuitous body shots, and more.

Now clearly we can’t and shouldn’t follow everyone online. So how do you promote yourself, manage your follows/subscriptions, and interact in social spaces without looking self-absorbed?

Absolution: JUST LIMIT IT

Of course you should toot your own horn, or tweet when you’ve posted something new. There is nothing wrong with being proud of accomplishments; just be sure to  wrap them in a frame of appreciation. And we do want to see what you’re wearing, or your new lipstick…we just don’t need to scroll through 20 photos of the same look to get the gist.

Guidelines to help keep you from looking like a self-centered schmuck:

  • For every post of yours that you share/tweet, share or retweet someone else’s post. And remember that Twitter is a social medium—you should be interacting, not just broadcasting.
  • Limit outfit photos in blog posts to three-to-five, max: a full-length shot, a detail shot of your shoes, bag, or accessories, perhaps a shot of the back of your look.
  •  Maybe you really like someone’s blog but their other social media feeds aren’t your cup of tea, or you’re already having a hard time keeping up with all the other people you follow. Just pop over to their feed periodically and selectively give loves/likes to photos, or share a post that resonates with you.
  •  Your head shouldn’t be the subject of nearly every photo in your Instagram feed (unless you’re a beauty blogger sharing new makeup/looks). We know what your face looks like. We’re following you because we want to see your world, or as much of it as you’ll share with us.
  • Don’t like/love your own content on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, etc. That’s pretty self-explanatory.
  •  If you’re into fitness and healthy eating, we want to see your progress, and we may have some questions. But if someone asks you about your diet and fitness regimen, don’t tweet or reply with a snarky comment and a picture of your abs to show it is working…it makes you look like a conceited jerk.
  •  At conferences, be gracious to people who recognize you and introduce themselves. If you’re reveling in revenue and sponsorships, remember: it’s their support and blog visits that make your blog successful.
  • If you’ve been featured in the media, or on another blog, when sharing accolades or posting a link, do it with a thank you: I am so flattered to have been featured by Grazia Magazine…what an honor! Thank you!
  • Say thank you and respond to comments on your blog. Even if you can’t respond to all of them, pick a few and respond when you can. Limited responses and expressions of appreciation are better than none at all. Other commenters notice when you respond, and they appreciate it even if you’re not responding directly to them. It makes a huge difference and it shows that you care…about someone other than YOU!

NEXT: Seven Deadly Sins Series: LUST

13 comments

  1. Another great post! All of it, so true! Especially the commenting. I remember when I started blogging I was trying so hard to connect with other bloggers. I’m still friends with the people who responded to my comments, but I don’t even remember the blog names of the bloggers who snubbed me.

    1. Thanks, Heather. You know, most bloggers don’t get 150+ comments a day, so there is just no excuse. In fact, with the popularity of Instagram, I see even fewer comments happening on blogs, and often just a handful of comments even on some extremely popular blogs. So again, no excuse. We can’t get to everyone all the time, and not all comments warrant a response. But some people could give a little more love, you know?!

  2. great advice! I couldn’t agree more. I hate seeing when bloggers are so full of themselves and then never respond to comments or link up with others. It’s so self-serving. On the flip side, there are some lovely bloggers who link up and share others work.

    1. I noticed this “I’m-too-cool-to-comment” phenomenon early on in blogging, and it’s why I always try to respond to my commenters. They’re busy people too, but they have taken the time to share their thoughts with me, and they deserve to be acknowledged. I can’t always get to everyone, or it may take me a while, but I do try!

      And thank YOU for your comment!

  3. the biggest line that resonated with me was: “They’re the ones with the diva attitudes, who rarely say thank you or acknowledge followers outside their top tier”. this is so, so true and it happens a lot. i think that it’s often forgotten how each of us started out; it was because ppl helped [you], spread [your] content, interacted back, that helped to make [you] successful. it’s a priority for me to reply to each tweet and most comments because i appreciate that someone would take their time to interact with me. also, the blog photos to three or five – so true! there have been times i really couldn’t believe the number of photos – so much so that i was sure my browser had a glitch. ha.

    sharing others’ content is key – it’s not only gracious, but great karma to spread something you found useful or interesting and it doesn’t happen nearly enough. thanks for this, v!

    1. THIS—–> “…it’s not only gracious, but great karma to spread something you found useful or interesting and it doesn’t happen nearly enough.”

      Isn’t it nice when you connect with people online who share, and are genuinely interested in you and your blog? I love that! Have a fabulous weekend, lady!

  4. I’m loving this series, V! I absolutely agree. I think another way to get past the pride is to join your local blogging community. I’ve started to attend lots of local blogging events, and have been including my fellow bloggers and their blogs in my posts. Once you become a part of a community, you realize just how many great people there are doing the same thing you’re doing. And I’ve met so many great new friends. We all are able to take part in this blogging thing, and we all have something to offer!

    xoxo
    Cyrillynn

    1. Thanks, lady! I wish there were more local blogging events where I am. They are so fun, and they DO put the humanity back in blogging. I supposed I could take the reins and create those events…but I just don’t have the time.

      And yes, we DO all have something to offer! Sometimes we learn, sometimes we teach, sometimes we inspire, sometimes we are inspired. If only more bloggers realized that!

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