Haters. We’ve all got ‘em.
And when they set their sights and words on you, it’s no picnic. They make you feel hurt and angry, and so full of rage it’s almost impossible to hold your tongue.
But hold you must. DO NOT make the mistake of shooting a nastygram back in a hater’s direction in the comments on your blog, or on Twitter—or anywhere, for that matter. Trust me, the kind of person who spews hate in comments is usually a few cards short of a full deck.
Reasonable, sane people don’t spend their time antagonizing others, in real life or online. Trying to reason with a hater is generally futile, and any exchange with them usually does not end well. On top of that, going head-to-head with someone in the public domain where others can read the exchange can make you look bad, even if you are the victim.
Absolution: JUST DELETE IT
There is a difference between an insult and constructive criticism, and your gut will let you know the difference, immediately. If a comment is not constructive, simply delete it.
Sure, deleting doesn’t give you the same satisfaction as responding with a smart little quip, but it does make that commenter’s efforts complete waste of time. Mean comments are intended to push your buttons, so sparring with a hater just lets them know that they got to you—don’t give them the satisfaction. Instead of wasting your precious time on people who don’t deserve it, spend it interacting with commenters and followers who support you.
Other ways to deal with hater-induced wrath:
- Block their IP address.
If you’re self-hosted, your cPanel will probably have an “IP Deny” button, or something of that ilk. The comment function on most blog platforms a captures the IP address of all those who comment on your blog. Most people use a static vs. a dynamic IP address, so if you block it, they get a message that they can no longer access your site from that computer/IP address.
- Set filters to recognize a hater’s IP/email address, and send it directly to the rubbish bin.
Setting a filter means those ugly words bypass your eyes altogether—you don’t have to do a thing to delete or remove them going forward. If you’re getting ugly emails, you can set a filter based on their email address. To filter comments on your blog, you can go to discussion or comment settings to set a filter based on their name, IP address, or email address.
- Block or report users who are nasty.
If you’re getting nastygrams on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter, just block ‘em, baby! It’s like a digital eraser; I highly encourage it. Just erase that troll right out of your virtual life! Extremely effective.
Remember: Two wrongs don’t make a right. Take the high road. Let them fester in your resounding silence. Spend your energy on being positive instead of negative.