WVW: The Scorpion*

You know how some people are described with the same type of adjectives, repeatedly?

“Oh she’s so nice.” Or, “What an elegant woman.” And of course, in the commonly-used adjectives bucket are cute, hot, sweet, down-to-earth, sexy, and so on.

One thing I can say about myself is that no one ever describes me as sweet. I’ve heard some of the above (as well as some choice words not fit for print), but along the way I’ve detected a pattern in the way others perceive/describe me. I’m often linked to nouns or adjectives that are a little prickly—and even reptilian. The fact that I’m not synonymous with warm and fuzzy is no surprise to me. I’ve heard that I’m intimidating, that I look stuck up, that people are actually kind of scared of me. A lot of those impressions usually erode after people meet me and realize that I’m not a mean person—I’m just confident and not the always-smiling cheerleader type. But yes, back me into a corner and I will strike.

That long-winded intro was my way of saying that even in Hubby’s mind, I’m synonymous with adjectives—and creatures—that are dangerous. Even lethal. He calls me “black mamba,” and sometimes “my little scorpion.” So of course, as we strolled through the mall one day and both laid eyes on this outrageous scorpion belt, we knew I must try it on. Then Hubby insisted I have it and he bought it for me. Some girls get sapphires. I get scorpions.

Here we are in our predatory glory—in what I consider pseudo-preppy mode, to tone down the fear factor.

*WVW = What V Wore
Shirt: Banana Republic  •   Belt: Tobacco Road Belt Company  •  Pants: Banana Republic  •   Heels: BCBG  •  Bracelet: H&M
Nails: Sally Hansen Salon Effects in Misbehaved (five days on, still perfect!)

Yep, only two photos. Why? Well after seeing myself in white, I can see why I wear so much black. I’m too white for white. I look washed out. Blech.

Wait. Here’s one more shot, for kicks. This is what happens when your tripod—and camera—hit the deck just before the timer winds down. Ouch. Told you I’m dangerous.

What adjectives do people use to describe you?

78 comments

  1. Great outfit, I love the casual-yet-put-together vibe. And that belt buckle, yow! Hmm, adjectives people have used to describe me? Sweet. Quirky. Dork (when it wasn’t cool, ouch).

  2. I loved reading this. Like always.

    I see what you are saying. I’m always told that I am cute, and sometimes down-to-earth, or sassy by my sisters. But for the first time in my life I as told I am intimidating. More precisely, that “I’m intimidating and should go fight with the boys.” in my kickboxing class. I was kind of happy about the comment…

    I was also recently told I have a very quiet confidence. I liked that as well. Obviously I like people telling me nice things about myself.

    When I was first introduced to your blog I though, “intimidating” simply because you know what you are doing, but have come to see you as a very caring and sweet person. Yep. I think you are sweet.

    1. Annie, thanks for your honest and sweet comment! I really appreciate it. I could see you being called sassy. There is something about you that makes me feel like you’re a real firecraker…and I LOVE that. Quiet confidence is a total compliment, too. I agree.

  3. ~ * ♥ * ~

    Awesome belt buckle V! I think the white looks really good on you too, perfect with your jeans.

    Hmm, adjectives used to describe me? Random. Walking contradiction {I get that from my husband a LOT!}. I also get cute from my family all the time. > <

    xox,
    bonita of Depict This!
    ~ * ♥ * ~

  4. You strike me as a efficient, clever and beautiful woman who is not afraid of showing her character when needs to.While being loving and caring at the same time. I do not see you as a scorpion,although I want your belt badly, ahhhhhhhhhhhhh.
    I think you look fantastic in white and colours, but that is just me. hehehehehhe
    I am always so proud to be your friend.
    Much love.
    XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

  5. Nice post! and great belt, loved how your husband loved that belt and felt he had to get it for you 😉

    I think I do give a distant impression when first meeting someone. I try to give a good smile and a warm hand shake (not so comfortable with our European habit of kissing) and hope for the best. But people that don’t know me would describe me as quiet, serious…
    However I am not quiet, I am very loving to my friends, so not distant, and I have a great sense of humour.
    On the other hand, my partner would definitively not describe me as a butterfly or anything fluffy hehehe I’m sure other animalistic labels come to mind, as p*ssed off cat or something like that 🙂

  6. Oh my! That is one amazing belt! I’ve been told that I seem cold and stuck-up at first (probably because I’m painfully shy) but I also get the bucket adjectives (as you so aptly put): nice, sweet, etc.

  7. Sick and wrong, that belt. LOVE. It. I have an affinity for creepy crawly jewelry though (don’t know why, since I abhor the creepy crawly in real life…) I probably get the word sassy the most. I’m okay with sassy. I’d rather be a sass than an ass!

    merci!
    Shannan

  8. I know what you mean. People having pre-conceived notions about each other based on appearance, and first impressions. Can’t really blame them for that though, ‘coz I am sure I might ‘wrongly’ assume them to be something they aren’t. However, you belt IS definitely Fierce and Bold. You wear it well 🙂

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  9. You really know how to rock jeans girl! And the scorpion belt is fantastic!! I love it!

    Adjectives people use to describe me…hmmm…I’ve gotten the nice,sweet, and outgoing (even though I can be really shy sometimes!) and my really close friends say I can be really sarcastic when I’m good and ready!

  10. V, now I know why I love you so much. You are my grandma’s soul sister. I don’t know why I didn’t see it before. Lol! My grandma loves to wear broaches, pins, rings, anything with spiders, scorpions, snakes and other creatures on them… why? because they reflect her personality. She is the most loving and caring person, but she will protect her self and her loved ones to no end. Back her into a corner, and indeed…she will strike! And she is also quite intelligent (like you). People are also intimidated by her, but it”s only because they don’t understand her until they get to know her.

    Anyway, I think you look great in white but I understand how you feel. I don’t wear red often for the same reason. I feel like the palest person on earth when I wear it. But, you really do look very casual and chic with the relaxed BF jeans and preppy oxford-iish white blouse. But, the belt says… oh, no don’t get it twisted, V is still in the building! LOL. I love it!

    1. HA! OMG, Hubby and I read this comment together and it put a smile on BOTH our faces. You kill me.

      Lookin’ forward to that post on your grandma, babe!

      Thanks!

      xo

  11. Love the belt, love the nails! And the shoes were great too. This was a fun post. I don’t even want to know what adjectives people use to describe me. It will probably just make me want to have a nice big glass of white wine in the middle of the day.

  12. I appreciate the hot danger of the scorpion belt contrasted with the clean, fresh look of the white shirt, denim, and subtle makeup. And then there’s the little surprise of the fingernails, almost like golden scales.

    I don’t see you as aggressively dangerous, V. But you won’t take bad treatment; you will protect and defend, and you will attack if it’s called for. Don’t Tread on Me.

    I’m trying to think of the adjectives people tend to use to describe me. Quiet. Creative. Thoughtful. I’ve received two animal comparisons in my remembered lifetime — one, years ago, was “chipmunk,” which I didn’t like much. I’m guessing it was because of my face shape, my girlish voice, and alert social body language. The other more recent one, from my dear friend Laura, was “butterfly” — perhaps because I went through a metamorphosis a few years ago. I shifted from dark, unflattering clothing, uncomfortable body size, and thoughtless hair to a more attentive and colorful look, and I began explorations of color and beauty in my blog.

  13. My boyfriend describes me as a lioness – I’m a bit of a pussycat and we were told at the zoo that they sleep for 20 hours and eat for 4 – sounds about right! But I’m also fiercely loyal and protective of my loved ones, I can be vicious if the situation calls for it. Now, where to find a belt with a lion buckle?!

    Great post, as always!

  14. I’m not going to lie, when I first stumbled upon your blog, I was a bit intimidated. Only because of the way you carried yourself, which I admired. Once I read your blogs and tweets I thought you were just a very confident, “I don’t care what others think of me” attitude type of person. Which is GREAT!!!! Not a lot of girls are that way and may envie that.

    And I do think you are very kind and sweet!

    p.s. I’m digging this outfit. 🙂

    xoxo,
    melrod

  15. I dunno sometimes people would call me snobbish because I don’t usually smile while I am in the eyes of the public…I always feel dumb and crazy smiling for myself but for those who get to know me for the second time…they would say how my name says it all…maybe my mom got that notion as well…usually they tend to brand me as the choosy one because I am not the typical Filipina girl who goes out and says YES at all foods, trips and more…I have so many worries and excuses but along the way…I get along with other people…
    but my mom would define me as a tear jerker….very emotional I am like a teddy bear…so cute and cuddly…but if you tend to hurt my loved ones…I may have the tendency of fighting back 🙂

    great belt V

    Kisses
    Sweet
    PensandLens
    @mistytewest

  16. Actually I can’t help BUT think that this kind of spontaneous characterization belongs to a superficial perception, possibly (BUT not inevitably) flirting with Truth : an “ethereal-likesque Baby Doll” can be a pervert Bitch, while “a day to day GLAMazon”, exuding charisma, (virulently) can ignore any psychological form of Arrogance, beyond her haughty prestance . . .
    ps: THE “Expert ès Sexy / Glam forecasts who is writing you these words” deeply thinks that this Scorpion’s bite can only be a Delight Dear V (“shy smile”) !!!

    à Bientôt, Antoine

  17. love the belt, love the jeans, love the nails. it’s always interesting to hear what first impressions people have, they can often be wrong i always think.

    1. Thanks, Paula. I agree…that’s why first impressions are so important. Did you cut your hair yet? I’m going to your blog now. So excited about this.

  18. I get “cute” a lot, probably because I’m so small, but I don’t feel one way or the other about the description. I can see how people get a prickly vibe from you (maybe it’s that your tall/beautiful/wear lots of black), but that makes it all the more special to find out that you’re actually just a big sweetheart.

    1. Hi Marissa, thanks, doll! I believe a lot of women get the “cute” label when they are petite. But cute isn’t bad, for sure.

      Your comment was so sweet. I do think the black/tall/non-smiley is a bit much for some. And if I’m wearing something extra-wild, it might make it worse. But I do try to be gracious, so I hope that tips people off to the fact that I may look scary, but I’m really not!

  19. Such a great belt buckle. I love little touches like that. I’ve gotten intimidating as a description too and I never know how to take it. I guess it’s ok, but I definitely try not to be.

    I always love your posts, so great to read more about you!

    1. Thank you, Jaclyn! What a nice comment!

      RE: Intimidating. We can only be ourselves. And you know what they say about not judging a book by its cover. I’m sure most people get to know you and realize the intimidation they felt was silly.

  20. This totally made me laugh!! I have to say my absolute favorite part of this look are your nails. THEY LOOK ABSOLUTELY AMAZING!!! Wow! I must know where/how to get these!! Hm… adjectives that people use to describe me {that aren’t about my looks}: confident outgoing and quiet. I think it’s funny that I get “quiet” and “outgoing” both often. don’t you? The funny thing is it’s kind of true. I can be both… it really depends on my environment. I like this question because it kind of makes you think. 🙂

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    1. Hey babe, thank you! Get yourself to ANY drugstore for Sally Hansen Salon Effects. Ulta too. They’re so easy, and last forever!

      RE: The contradiction of “quiet” and “outgoing”…isn’t that funny, what people say?

  21. Hi Vahni,
    loved this post and you are looking as gorgeous as ever! However I disagree with you on how you are perceived when I met you I was impressed by the strong colors but you did make me feel “warm and fuzzy” I was so happy to meet you and hope we can hang out again soon! C.x

    1. Caitlin, hello love!

      Thank you for your sweet comment. Good to know I didn’t scare you away. Wait…you’re FEARLESS…maybe that’s why! Let’s say the impression was mutual.

      And hang out again soon? Please. Tomorrow. Hop the next plane. I need a female partner in crime! xo

  22. sweetheart, another great look from you! I love that you are mixing it up.

    I get called all kinds of sweet nicknames, but my fave is problably la bomba lol. I am tougher than I get cred for I think, not bad ass as such, this I do realize, but I am determined, focused and expect people to bring it, just like I expect from my self. Big mwuuuaaaahhhh for you! <3

  23. V,. you did the nails! How do you like them? Sorry…I just noticed it when i was looking at the close up of your belt 🙂

    I think my adjectives are “Loyal, down to earth, sweet, enthusiastic”…which makes me sound like a puppy! But when my peers and direct reports described me, the consensus was “fashionable”, which was flattering!

    xoxo

  24. I loooove this! Embracing your scorpion/black mamba side. Also the belt buckle makes an excellent accessory on you. I am totally the sweet girl, very easily excited and enthusiastic. Sounds kind of annoying but it’s kinda true. The BF calls us half empty and half full.

    @cyrillynn those nails look like Sally Hansen Nail Effects :D. Which are the best thing ever. EVER.

    1. @Jamillah – Yup, I know! I reviewed them on my blog and V had commented that several bloggers also liked them, too. It’s great to see that V tried them because I love them!

      xoxo

  25. Wow! The belt buckle is amazing!

    I don’t know how people would describe me… but I may be okay with not knowing. I feel like when they label us, we start to conform (royal we and collective they) and it ends up just like Schrodinger’s cat – are we really that way? Or are we the way we are because we are labeled as such.

    1. Interesting question, Birdie. I really think the labels stem from others’ observations or perceptions of us. I don’t think we’re living up to the label; I think the labels come from the human propensity to classify things in the mind.

      Thanks!

  26. I love the belt and the shoes. Maybe it’s the dark hair that causes people to fear you I don’t know? When I was younger people used to be scared of me but that was because I dressed in really baggy clothes and looked like a thug lol.

    1. Thanks, Arash! Looked like a thug. LOL, indeed.

      Maybe it is the hair with me. Though I will admit I’m not a smiler. I mean, unless there’s a reason!

  27. V!

    Your scorpion is striking – just like you – and while others may not look at that as the “right” or common thing to say, I think it’s powerful. A scorpion commands attention whether it’s out of fear or curiosity and there’s nothing wrong with that. I love that your husband calls you the “Black Mamba”. Adorable. I love the belt. A charming accessory indeed!

    People usually say I’m cute and approachable. I usually shock people when I discuss business or something serious because I guess I don’t give off serious. As nice as it may be, “cute” gets redundant especially as I approach 30. LOL.

    1. Hey Mattie! Thanks, love! What a fab comment…you are so kind. And I agree…cute can get redundant, but it might well be your poker face. Werrrrk!

  28. I can’t help but laugh a little, I always take photos and then realize something wasn’t quite right. Yesterday, it was that my legs were blindingly pale. Hopefully I can remedy that with a little sunshine this week! Also, I’m loving your belt. I’m a fan of unexpected animal jewelry and accessories. I’ve been rocking the heck out of a 2 finger owl ring lately!

    1. Hey sweetpea, thanks for your commnent! I don’t mind pale, just don’t like washed out. My legs are perpetually white, and thank God Hubby doesn’t mind.

      Would love to see that owl ring!

  29. I love the scorpion belt buckle. I wish I could look a little rougher around the edges. Except I look about 12, and to give you an idea my boyfriend refers to me as Honey Bunny.

  30. Hey loves, thank you all for sharing your thoughts on this look, and what words people tend to use to describe you. So fun to read your comments. Have I told you lately that I love you?

  31. People often think the same of me – that I’m stuck up, intimidating, or something of the sort. I’m not always smiling or bubbly, and sometimes that’s good while others its not. But I have absolutely no problem with it, because it’s me. In fact, I’m not the “cheerleader type” either! I’m just very observant, especially in new surroundings and around new people. I like to take everything in.
    At first, I can see why people may think this of you. But you are such a wonderful and beautiful woman inside and out, V! You are fearless and confident and know exactly what you’re doing and what you want. That is a beautiful thing.
    You inspire so many of us in hundreds of ways.

    XXXO
    M

    http://tastesandstyle.blogspot.com

    1. Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!

      Thank you, sweetpea! Such a kind comment. And yeah, it used to bother me that people think I’m stuck up, or “aloof,” as I’ve heard. But like you, there’s more to me, and just because I’m not super-friendly out of the gate doesn’t mean I’m a monster. It takes a little time, as you said, to take everything in. That’s actually a very good thing.

  32. Obsessed with this! You and I have a lot in common, V. I know a lot of guys and gals in the blogging world and Twitter world say I am a sweetheart – but in reality, people who share my airspace say I am somewhat of a scorpion too.

    I have a lot of black mamba in me, haha 🙂

    Can’t wait to see this new post coming up with the shoes!!
    Xo,
    E

    1. I agree we have a lot in common…and you know I’ve seen the black mamba in you…in SPANISH! Loved it too. Thanks for your comment, princess.

  33. I love your belt, and how simple and put together you look – I would never look as good in such clothes…I’m always defined as cute, quirky and once, baby-ish – which is why I totally freak everyone out when I say I go clubbing in skimpy outfits or tell them I bungy-jump or take boxing classes. Really, they’re like: ‘wahhhhh…Chezka??? For real’…I hate being called cute, it reminds me of what people tell their dogs – I wish I could be called something reptilian or mysterious, or intimidating like what they call you but noooo…no one ever thinks I’m mysterious, only cute. sxxt.

    Anyways, love your outfit!

    – Che –

    http://www.oddcandy.blogspot.com

    1. Che, thank you! Your comment was so funny!

      I guess “cute” could be offensive, though I know they mean it as a compliment. You have a sweet, girlish look about you which may annoy you now, but later in life, you’ll be grateful for it!

  34. Oh, I love this post. (This is what happens when I miss blog-reading for a while, you go dishing out all these amazing outfit posts. Serves me right!)

    Firstly, how you manage to rock the jeans-and-white-shirt combo blows my mind. I was just thinking today about how “uncool” I feel in jeans, and yet it’s probably what I have the most of. Also, you remind me so much of Liv Tyler in the first shot. Uncanny!

    I can’t say I’ve ever been called a scorpion, but I can relate to that first impression. I’ve frankly never heard much of what people think of me, but I do remember when I was about sixteen or so I found out that a lot of people think I look “standoffish”. My face has a tendency to fall into a sort of natural frown when I’m at ease and apparently it makes me look intimidating? Go figure, because as you’ve undoubtedly figured out I’m the most unintimidating person…ever. But beyond that, I really have no clue. I’ll have to start asking people and see what the winning word is. Ha!

    1. Haaaa! Your first paragraph…funny you.

      Thanks for your comment, Casee. I totally get the natural frown. I have strangers tell me to smile quite often, which I think is so rude, cause what if I’m genuinely upset, or just got some bad news? It’s my prerogative to smile or not. And seriously, don’t we all think people who walk around smiling for nothing are crazy?

      Yes, you’re not intimidating. You’re so sweet! I think our slightly scary looks probably protect us from the ne’er-do-wells. That’s my theory, anyway.

  35. People usually describe me as tall. A few weeks ago I was told I was rude, but that was a new one. (She and I haven’t been all that friendly since.)

    As for white, it just makes me feel really really busty, so I avoid it too.

    And I love your scorpion belt. It’s so cool. I love belts.

  36. You know, when I first read the title of this post I thought you were going to say something about being a Scorpio (although thinking back I think we had this discussion at some point and you aren’t a Scorpio). I think if I had to describe you I would actually use a lot of the terms associated with a Scorpio, especially dangerous, mysterious & sexy. Intimidating does come into play a bit. With that in mind, the Scorpion fits very well – I think you embody a lot of that, but not in a prickly way. Just a “don’t F@#! with me” attitude that says you can be sweet as honey UNTIL someone gets on your bad side. At least that is how I always have viewed you!

    I AM a Scorpio, so I get a lot of the same comments, especially when people first meet me. I tend to be quiet and reserved until I am comfortable around someone and I understand that can come across as aloof and standoff-ish. The strange thing is I am also one of those people who has a seemingly permanent smile stuck on her face, so the perception changes rather quickly!

    Finally – I love it when you rock denim in a look. I said it on your earlier post too, but denim is one of my favorite things to wear, and I can’t get enough of the looks you’ve posted lately. That belt buckle is beyond amazing – LOVE!

    1. Hey B,

      Maybe it’s not your “don’t F@#! with me” attitude, maybe it’s the Wendy B F@#! swear rings! Just kidding. Couldn’t resist. I think I need to order those. For realz.

      Thanks for your comment, doll! Loved it. Put a huge smile on my face!

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