Happy Halloween, y’all!
WOW. What a fantastic week in the blogosphere! I have to say that the cream of this week was publishing Why I’m Not on Weardrobe, Chictopia, Lookbook, or Hypeed, and actually getting Lookbook.nu and Hypeed’s attention. This is not an endeavor to gloat and put myself on a pedestal. I mention it because it is proof that bloggers have more power than they realize.
Really, who the hell am I? Some chick in the southeastern U.S. with a laptop, a brain, and an opinion. I’m nobody. But yet I wrote something that actually made a difference on at least one site, and on many blogs. I took a stand and people responded. That’s good. It means this medium and what we are doing makes a difference. Remember that, my lovelies. Your words can do good or harm, so think—and write—very carefully.
And to all of you who dropped by, shared your thoughts, debated, tweeted, and made your voices heard, thank you. You are always welcome here. I read every comment, and when I have time, I respond to every comment. Even if it means posting less. BECAUSE YOU MATTER.
If you’re interested in reading the ripple effect, here are responses to my post on fashion networking communities:
- I love me. And I don’t care if you don’t. by Style Activist
“…take a pledge to love you. Love your legs, your skin, your bust, your waist, everything. Don’t buy into what people want you to be. I was talking to a friend yesterday about some negative feedback that I got from a reader, and man, I was so upset. I just love to laugh and smile and then boom, there’s the negativity I was talking about. I am totally putting myself out there through my blog, allowing myself to be vulnerable to whatever people want to say and think about me. And you know what, that risk has been 100% worth it. What would we gain if we were so afraid of what people had to say about our hips, or our paragraphs, that we would hide in closets, afraid of the criticism? Nothing. So I am just going to be me, do my thing, wear my clothes and love myself and my curves. And I don’t care if you don’t.”
- The Blog Issue—Fashion Communities by A Little Bird Told Me
“I would, however, disagree with the description of these sites as ‘fashion communities’. The word community instills ideas of solidarity, sisterhood and collectivity, but the voting element is so juxtaposed—it forces certain members in front of others, immediately dispelling any notion of ‘togetherness’.
And suddenly, you realise the most popular member of your community, the one with the most hypes and likes and loves, is wearing a truly heinous eskimo hat over 5 inches of black roots with a fringed waistcoat and boots that look like a horse’s hooves—someone you can’t relate to or compete with—and you think nah, this really isn’t for me.”
- RE: Why I’m Not on Weardrobe, Chictopia, Lookbook, or Hypeed by Profresh Style
“…The users are the ones in charge of voting these “beautiful people” to the top so I can’t blame the sites-it’s the industry itself. In fact, I just had a meeting with a colleague regarding designers she interns for and the problem with the designers not choosing models of color. It’s true, the tall, blond and Caucasian (or looks Caucasian) women will get the gig over women with color of the same beauty attributes.”
- Getting serious: That weighty issue by One More
“…I find that the more people label themselves as ‘plus size’ bloggers the more of a divide is created and people are forced to choose sides. I stopped following one blog because the posts about fashion, models, size etc were so hateful it was toxic. I loved this persons fashion posts but her hatred of thin people was just awful. I know it works both ways and I’m just not in to it. It isn’t a war. It’s fashion. I realise that this is a case of a few people ruining things for the whole bunch, but I see it more and more and I worry that this sub-sub-culture is going too far.”
Trick-or-treat!!! Well, I have to say that Ioana Liliana Gheorghe of Fashezine, pulled off both…a treat of a dress that’s actually a trick. Or maybe it’s a trick that really feels like a treat! Either way, the dress—and the post, In the nude—are sweet:
…there is one thing that I believe we should keep in mind before going (mentally) naked in front of our 500 friends. Is what you’re giving equal with what you’re gaining? Is the way in which you are exposing yourself online helping in terms of your personal development? My personal answer is a heartfelt ‘YES’, I use social networks in order to build like-minded communities, I enjoy being part of a community and I enjoy sharing my preferences with my friends and seeing theirs. Yet, I try not to forget that there is an entire world out there, and it’s beautiful, even if sometimes flawed.
Ioana is NOT nude, people. Let’s just be clear about that.