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Friend Friday: Did you really wear that?

This week’s Friend Friday* subject is a bit of a mixed bag—one part blending blog and work wear, one part blog wear reality check. In introducing this week’s topic, Katy wrote:

…how many times have you looked at a post and thought the blogger was adorable but probably wore the outfit only to take pictures and post to the blog?

My immediate response is: never. I don’t really care whether someone wore an outfit featured in a blog post in reality or not. The only thing that pops in my head is whether I like the outfit or not. And the overall photography and effect. But on to the questions…

When it comes to outfit posts on your own blog, be honest, are they what you actually wore that day? 
Sometimes they are, sometimes they aren’t. I don’t promise anything on my blog in terms of fashion; the only thing I will say is that the pieces I wear on my blog are indeed from my closet—they are not costumes. I have worn everything photographed on my blog in real life, in some manifestation or another, at some point. I tend to dress on the edge a bit—it’s not just blog fodder.

Below is a menagerie of ensembles I actually wore—shopping, to church, to the movies, to my car dealership (and even to the doctor)—on the day I shot the photo.

Can you guess what I wore where?**

If you’re so inclined, answers appear below.

For a fashion blogger, working in a corporate environment can be tricky. How do you mesh your day job with your personal style choices? 
I did a whole post on this after I was asked a question on Formspring about whether I dress more conservatively for work, and then a commenter asked for tips on office dresssing. To read my philosophy on work wear and my strategies for blending work wear/blog wear/casual wear, see Worker V 1.1 (+ My Office Wear Strategy). Check back soon for a Worker V post that specifically addresses remixing components of outfits I’ve worn on the blog for the office.

Oh, and by the way, I just discovered the bloody Formspring link in my post footer was broken. Sheesh. It’s fixed now, so feel free to use it!  

When you get dressed in the morning, do you think what should I wear to work or what should I wear for the blog? 
If I’m going into the office, I am only concerned about my appearance there. It takes precedence. When I shoot office wear for the blog, I do it at the end of the day, when I get home from work. If I’m at home and just want to shoot some fun stuff for the blog, only then do I think, what should I wear for the blog?

Do professionals you interact with ever make comments about your clothing choices? 
Yes, all the time. They are usually compliments, or people ask where I purchased a particular piece. There is a lovely South American woman in my work commissary that calls me “elegant lady” in her fantastic accent, every time I see her, without fail. I adore her. And the cashiers in my work cafeteria regularly peek over the counter to check out my shoes and comment on them. That happened just yesterday, in fact. What’s not to love? It makes me smile and I try to be gracious and appreciative.

Some bloggers openly admit to wearing outfits only for the blog post. What’s your opinion on that?
I occasionally wear something just for a blog photo shoot, but as I wrote above, everything I wear I’ve worn before, in my personal life. And again, I could care less whether someone plays dress up for their blog or not. If I like it, I like it.

As far as my blog goes, it is a creative outlet for me, first and foremost; I don’t feel compelled to follow any rules other than to be true to myself. If I started posting what I wear when I’m sitting around watching TV, I’m pretty sure I’d lose all my readers, stat. The blogs I find most compelling are not the girl-next-door-shoots-a-photo-in-the-middle-of-her-street-with-the-same-cutesy-mouth-slightly-agape-look. I’ve never subscribed to saccharine, cheerleader-type normality. I’m far more interested in shoots of the Vogue Gone Rogue ilk, or really creative (and quirky) mixups of trends and everyday wear, like on Style of a Fashionista and Beckerman Bite Plate. I want to be inspired, stimulated, even provoked. I read a variety of blogs, but the ones I love most are daring, intelligent, and sarcastic.

For me, fashion blogs are largely entertainment. And to some degree, they must be entertainment for you as well since  (interestingly enough), my two most commented posts are also a couple of my most OTT looks…funny, that…

*The Friend Friday project by Modly Chic is a way for bloggers to share more about themselves and create a friendly connection with other bloggers. Katy of Modly Chic sends us questions weekly, and we answer on our blogs.

**Answers to what I wore, where:

  1. Shopping, minus the trench.
  2. To church.
  3. A lace dress for a doctor appointment…oh yes I did.
  4. Shopping, my outfit for the day. One of my faves.
  5. To church.
  6. Shopping, and no, I’m not kidding. I wore a bikini cover up over a bikini top and leggings—to the mall.
  7. To the car dealership for a service.
  8. To see Sex and the City 2 with a gal pal.

The Author



V is the founding editor of GRIT & GLAMOUR, a professional content developer by day, and a die-hard Southerner. When she's not writing or trolling Instagram, she's spending time with her other loves: her Aussie husband and dog Macy.

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  1. September 17, 2010 at 2:55 am — Reply

    Love this post, also agree that when I look at outfit posts i don’t really think about whether they really wear it or not, who cares? They’re expressing themselves creatively and stylishly!
    Your wardrobe must be bursting from work-wear and fashion bits! Still madly in love with the convertible frock and grey jumpsuit! smokin’ darling!

    Have yourself a top weekend!
    ps NEXT ship to US in 2 biz days – i thought there were actual stores, but couldn’t locate them, so here’s the link instead:

    • September 19, 2010 at 7:12 pm — Reply

      Thanks sugar! You know I appreciate your friendship and kindness!

  2. September 17, 2010 at 3:40 am — Reply

    My adorable V, thanks a lot for remembering my request, but as most things in life they sort themselves out while we worry sick about them. Blogspot has made some changes automatically that iproves them and offers bigger pictures, so I am ok with the way my blog looks at the moment. Thanks anyway for being there and always so caring.
    I love you in colour, perphaps because I love colour…he, he.
    You are so wise and so thorough that I have nothing more to say.

    • September 19, 2010 at 7:13 pm — Reply

      Lovely Sacramento! So glad you got it sorted.

      About the color…thank you. I’m really bad about wearing a ton of black and often go in phases with it, as you can see lately!

  3. September 17, 2010 at 4:13 am — Reply

    Great answers to the questions girl! Love your honesty!


  4. September 17, 2010 at 7:38 am — Reply

    As usual, I agree with all you’ve said here! I dress up for me, not for the blog. If I’m wearing something that I feel like sharing, I take a few pictures before going out. The first thing I think of when I’m getting ready is, “Is this weather-appropriate?” and, like you, I don’t ever wonder why or where a blogger is wearing their outfit. I just appreciate it for what it is! 🙂

  5. September 17, 2010 at 8:35 am — Reply

    Wonderful! I liked reading this.

  6. September 17, 2010 at 8:40 am — Reply


    Thank you ladies!

  7. September 17, 2010 at 8:44 am — Reply

    V. I completely adore you. I have to admit that I do wonder if people wore things on their blog out for shopping or to work, etc. mainly because I am curious how they negotiate a day of standing on super tall heels or if they could bike in a pencil skirt to their campus or office job, and I wonder because I am constantly inspired by the blogs that I read (and there are a great variety of them) so I’d like to know if their outfits were as successful in real life as they are on their blogs.

    I want to ask, though, were you clothes shopping in the bikini and cover up? I ask because I often feel that if I don’t wear an actual bra while shopping I don’t necessarily get a real sense of how something will fit me up top. I’m wondering if you felt like that was an issue.

    • September 19, 2010 at 7:18 pm — Reply

      LHdM…thank you! I really do traipse through my everyday life in outrageously tall heels.

      To answer your question, I was shoe shopping when I sported the bikini top and cover up with leggings. But I think the bra thing is all relative. I can shop with or without one…but everyone has their thing. I can usually tell how something will fit up top no matter what, but it really all depends on how much bosom we are blessed with, doesn’t it?

  8. September 17, 2010 at 8:54 am — Reply

    I enjoyed the post. The Q&A and photos were both awesome. I hope this finds you doing well., Take care. Enjoy the weekend.

    • September 19, 2010 at 7:19 pm — Reply

      Thanks Keith…hope you had a great weekend too.

  9. September 17, 2010 at 9:17 am — Reply

    Enjoyed matching the pictures to the event – got to find some time to work through more of the backlog of your fab outfit posts but this was a nice selection to start off with!

    • September 19, 2010 at 7:20 pm — Reply

      Thanks doll!

  10. September 17, 2010 at 9:19 am — Reply

    I love your answers.
    Whenever my post goes up you’ll see that I mostly agree. I get annoyed if a blogger presents themself as someone who takes photos of what they wore that day, but really didn’t wear that outfit.
    I totally understand getting dressed up, taking photos and posting them, even if you didn’t really wear it out, but at least be honest about it. I’d rather see someone say “I love my outfit, I took the photos today, but didn’t have to go anywhere in it.” Than to have someone lie about where they wore it.

    But, then again, as you point out, who cares? If it’s your blog, you can do whatever you want. So maybe it shouldn’t be an issue…

    • September 19, 2010 at 7:34 pm — Reply

      Thanks for your perspective, Suze. We all have our own expectations, I guess. I just feel like sometimes everyone takes it all a little too seriously, you know?

  11. September 17, 2010 at 9:21 am — Reply

    Wonderful answers as always. I loved the collages that gave a peak at where you wore what.

    • September 19, 2010 at 8:09 pm — Reply

      Thank you!

  12. September 17, 2010 at 9:32 am — Reply

    It was nice reading your answers!

    • September 19, 2010 at 8:09 pm — Reply

      Hi Emilie, thank you for stopping by!

  13. September 17, 2010 at 10:07 am — Reply

    I agree with you, it doesn’t matter if the outfit is only for photos or if the blogger actually wears the outfit out. It is just expression of individual expression and inspiration. All in all, I LOVE all of your WVW posts, keep it up babe. LOVE always, Jemina (((HUGS HUGS HUGS)))

    • September 20, 2010 at 10:01 am — Reply

      Thank you love! Mwah!

  14. September 17, 2010 at 10:10 am — Reply

    I admire your honesty. I like that every time I come to this blog and I see an outfit post that I can so tell that it’s truly what you wore.

    • September 20, 2010 at 10:06 am — Reply

      Thank you Paulette…that means the world to me! I’m a straight-shooter…what you see is what you get.

  15. September 17, 2010 at 10:41 am — Reply

    Great answers, and I agree, the way to my heart is also through inspirational oddity and sarcasm… 🙂
    I’m glad you broached the did-you-really-wear-that topic, as I don’t really care when I’m reading my favorite blogs but as someone considering venturing in the already oversaturated realm of the outfit post, it’s definitely something to think about.
    And I’m crushing on outfit #1, trench included!

    • September 20, 2010 at 10:10 am — Reply

      Hi Liv…thank you, doll! And welcome to G&G! So nice to meet new readers and discover their blogs.

      I appreciate your kind words and readership!

  16. September 17, 2010 at 10:42 am — Reply

    I agree with you totally on this. I prefer shots that look like they haven’t taken to much effort to put together. For me, I don’t have a choice as my shots are not of me but of other people and what they. Can you imagine if I said to someone in the street, can you just go home and change your shoes before I get you photo as I don’t really like them. Not going to happen. Anyway, great post as always and let me know if you are going to make it downunder next year.


    • September 20, 2010 at 10:03 am — Reply

      True, Lee. Thanks for commenting, hon. Will definitely let you know next time I’m going to be in Sydney! I MUST meet you!

  17. September 17, 2010 at 12:29 pm — Reply

    FRESH OUT: Friend Friday: Did you really wear that? Does it matter if you really wore what you posted? #FBFF

  18. September 17, 2010 at 1:32 pm — Reply

    Great answers V! And I love the photo recap of some of your magnificent ensembles. Have a beautiful weekend!
    XO Piper

    • September 20, 2010 at 10:02 am — Reply

      Thank you Piper! Aren’t you sweet?! Hope you had a beautiful weekend yourself.

  19. September 17, 2010 at 4:30 pm — Reply

    RT @gritandglamour: Friend Friday: Did you really wear that? Does it matter if you really wore what you posted? #FBFF

  20. Terri
    September 17, 2010 at 8:07 pm — Reply

    I would have guessed number 4 was for a gallery show.

    • September 20, 2010 at 10:04 am — Reply

      Hi Terri, welcome! Ah…how nice would it have been if there would have a been a local gallery show worth seeing! Unfotunately, they are few a far between. Thanks for your comment.

  21. September 17, 2010 at 8:26 pm — Reply

    thank you for the shout out!!!!!!!!! i always flush whenever you mention me. =)

    i’m right there with you. i don’t care at all if a blogger has worn an outfit in real life or not. there are so many bloggers that already post their daily outfits, and there’s nothing wrong with it, but if we all did it then how boring would that get? i love going to a blog and seeing the personality of a person, and i definitely don’t enjoy blogs that are trying too hard to be like someone else or fit the “formula.” being yourself is so important in blogging.

    • September 20, 2010 at 10:13 am — Reply

      Of course, sweetie! I am such a fan of your creativity and sass. Like you said, being yourself is important in blogging, and it is so clear that you are.

  22. September 17, 2010 at 10:26 pm — Reply

    You know, I’m getting pretty riled up about this little controversy. I can only speak for myself, but I blog as a creative outlet. I’m not forcing anyone to read it, if you don’t like it, you don’t have to read it. I usually wear the blog outfits at some point or another, but it doesn’t necessarily occur on the day photos are taken. Moreover, my clothing experimentation on the blog usually inspires me to mix things up in real life outfits too. Sometimes I find that I like something I put together for the sheer purpose of blog dress-up so much that I do wear it out, even if it wasn’t my original intention. I’m never buying new clothes solely for the blog, they serve my real life as well. So I really don’t see the problem if I wear something that day or at all! I’m glad you have similar sentiments. I see these types of complaints a lot and I think they are really silly. I’m glad to finally have a little outlet to air my grievances.

    • September 20, 2010 at 10:15 am — Reply

      Amen, amen, amen, Becca! I’m so glad you responded with such passion…I feel exactly the same way. Dude, what’s the BIG DEAL!? Blogging is supposed to be fun! Who cares when or if we wear something in real life!

      LOVED your comment. So thank you for taking the time to air your grievances here. You can jump on my soap box any time, doll!

    • September 21, 2010 at 7:17 pm — Reply

      i just have to thank you Becca….really, folks, it’s only pictures of clothes.

  23. September 18, 2010 at 1:30 am — Reply

    Hi V,

    That was great how you numbered what you wore and at the end of the post list the answers. I agree that you have to dress for you and not just for your blog.

    • September 20, 2010 at 10:16 am — Reply

      Glad you liked! Thank you!

  24. September 18, 2010 at 8:07 am — Reply

    Hi V:)

    I agree with everything you said here…thank you for your honest, from the heart answers:)

    • September 20, 2010 at 10:16 am — Reply

      Hi Collette, thanks hon!

  25. September 18, 2010 at 12:39 pm — Reply

    Hey! I watched a video of yours and it was so helpful for my blog. I LOVE your outfits! You are really pretty.

    • September 20, 2010 at 10:22 am — Reply

      Hi Annie, thank you so much! Welcome to G&G. So glad to know one of my vlogs was helpful for you.

  26. September 18, 2010 at 3:00 pm — Reply

    I’m with you! I could care less what a blogger wears in “real life.” I’m not a personal style blogger, so I don’t do outfit posts. But my blog is a creative outfit, and in many ways, I’m using it to explore fantasy. Fashion has a lot to do with fantasy, no?

    xo Marissa
    (The Well-Appointed Catwalk)

    • September 19, 2010 at 7:28 pm — Reply

      Marissa, thanks…we’re in total agreement. If we can’t have fun on our blogs, really, what’s the point?

  27. September 18, 2010 at 4:20 pm — Reply

    This is a great post! absolutly love your outfits!!! First time here but I am coming back for sure!

    • September 19, 2010 at 7:22 pm — Reply

      Wow, thanks Vicky! And welcome! Going to check you out now.

  28. September 19, 2010 at 6:53 am — Reply

    Wonderful answers as always.
    I agree with what you’ve said, I don’t really think about it either, makes no difference to me whether you’ve worn it all day or just put it on for the blog.
    Thanks for your comments 🙂
    Hope you have a great weekend xo

  29. September 19, 2010 at 8:02 am — Reply

    Ah, always so well put. Stylish friend, wishing you a grand Sunday.

  30. September 19, 2010 at 2:04 pm — Reply

    I love what you wear! Wish I was so stylish. You’re even stylish going to church. Good for you!

  31. September 19, 2010 at 7:21 pm — Reply


    Thanks much, my lovelies! I appreciate your compliments!

  32. September 20, 2010 at 1:06 pm — Reply

    Since I don’t do out fit posts, I got to sit back, relax, and read what everyone else does during this edition of Friend Friday. I agree with what you said re: whether or not a blogger wears an outfit in real life. The thought doesn’t usually cross my mind. Instead, I usually end up thinking “wow, why didn’t I think of that combination?!” (especially on your blog!). Ultimately, though, I think the most successful bloggers are the ones that are always true to themselves in what they post.

    I love that this is really who you are – and it’s no surprise that you get compliments here, at work, and elsewhere!

    • September 27, 2010 at 9:21 am — Reply

      Hi B, thanks, doll! You’re a sweetie!

  33. September 21, 2010 at 6:21 pm — Reply

    ha! brings back memories… my youth i wore some pretty wild looks, including to my (numerous) doc appts. a fave was a white lace blouse with black bra.

    30 years on, i still see one of those docs for continuing troubles…..he always returns my calls lickety-split! : )

    i don’t care much either if someone’s posting an outfit ‘exactly as worn’ or not…but it seems that some type of real world constraint usually results in a more interesting look – the really out there stuff seems to already happen on the runways, in mags, etc.

    • September 27, 2010 at 9:22 am — Reply

      Hi there TJ, thanks for your comment, ansd welcome!

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