Comments on: Friend Friday: Blogger Jealousy

By: V

Tue, 25 Jan 2011 01:26:48 +0000

And thank you for all your comments! I’m glad you and so many others connected with this post, because the last thing we need to do is waste our time being jealous. Unless we can recognize it, check it, and harness it as a catalyst for self improvement, it is so counterproductive.

By: sweet

sweet — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 14:12:59 +0000

this is what I need to listen too…thanks for Kristy in sharing about this…you have opened my eyes about blogging…thank you so much for this V…

and I love the questions…about bloggers jealousy and the negativity…

Kisses
Sweet
PensandLens

By: V

Fri, 27 Aug 2010 00:45:40 +0000

Missweet, thanks for the definition. Semantics aside, jealousy is also “resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another’s success or advantage itself.” That said, jealousy and envy often go hand in hand, and that is what we’re talking about here—not much of a distinction is made between the two in modern usage. Regardless, it is my opinion that envy is essentially the root of jealousy anyway. And when you scratch below that, it is insecurity in its worst manifestation.

By: missweet

missweet — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 20:42:41 +0000

I don’t mean to offend, but I did want to point out that the correct word is ‘envy’, not ‘jealousy’. You envy other people. You are jealous (almost obsessively protective) of what you own.

Other than that, I want to thank you for this video. Very insightful, and this is a topic that I’ve encountered a bit personally. <3

By: V

Thu, 19 Aug 2010 03:06:26 +0000

Hi Piper…welcome, sweetie!

Thank you so much for your thoughtfelt and honest response. You make excellent points! I love this:

The only cure to jealousy I’ve ever found is to get completely aligned with want I’m supposed to be doing. What I want. Not what I think I’m supposed to want, or look like on paper, or be. What I really wish for. When you are successful at achieving your real desires and dreams you don’t wish for any other path and you’ll be happy that others’ have met with success too.

IF only more of us could listen to ourselves and realize that WE must action our dreams and what we want. It doesn’t just materialize.

By: Piper Page

Piper Page — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 07:48:53 +0000

I’m a little late to this post but I wanted to comment because I’ve dealt with this and have done much to work through these emotions and have grown from it.

I used to find myself saying, “how could they have X! I want X. I want what seems to be perfect. My life is boring/awful, etc”

When you sit down and really are honest with yourself you begin to realize that most of the time you don’t want exactly what they have. You want the feeling and the accomplishment that comes with what they have. What they have took a lot of work or luck but it doesn’t apply to you. It’s about them.

The only cure to jealousy I’ve ever found is to get completely aligned with want I’m supposed to be doing. What I want. Not what I think I’m supposed to want, or look like on paper, or be. What I really wish for. When you are successful at achieving your real desires and dreams you don’t wish for any other path and you’ll be happy that others’ have met with success too.

It’s a difficult balance for sure, though.

By: V

Sun, 08 Aug 2010 03:27:32 +0000

Hi Elsie, thank you for your comment! It is a challenge to count your blessings, it really is. But Chicago is totally happening, and you have an H&M!!! Honey, there is nothing close to a fashion scene in my hometown. Chicago makes my town look like Mayberry.

Thanks again for chiming in here…I appreciate your perspective.

By: Elsie

Elsie — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 05:57:01 +0000

Great responses especially to number #5.

I think people (myself included) forget how great we have it where we are, and how much room to grow there is if we try hard enough. For instance, I would love to move to NY right now, but really I should remember that Chicago is a great place to be, especially as the fashion industry starts to expand itself here. This just makes me realize that I have to acknowledge and be thankful for what I have here at home. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
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