Friend Friday: Blogger Jealousy

Jealousy.

It is an ugly emotion that is regularly at play in female relationships, and no doubt in fashionβ€”and fashion blogging. That’s this week’s Friend Friday* topic, and here are the questions Katy asked:

  1. How do you define jealousy?
  2. When do you find you experience a bit of blogger jealousy?
  3. What types of blogs or which bloggers are you a little jealous of.
  4. From the time we’re little we are taught that jealousy is a bad thing, but it can also inspire us to be better. Have you changed the way you do things, the content of your blog, etc… as a result of what someone else is doing?
  5. What is the best way to overcome jealousy in the blogosphere and in life?

Blog posts referenced in the video:

*The Friend Friday project by Modly Chic is a way for bloggers to share more about themselves and create a friendly connection with other bloggers. Katy of Modly Chic sends us questions weekly, and we answer on our blogs.

82 comments

  1. V – I really really enjoyed this Vlog – totally agree that Jealousy is a wasted emotion. It’s so important to snap out of it and remember who you are, what you have (focus on what you want to achieve, get on with it) and be grateful for everything.

    You are one wise mama!
    oh and you look ridiculously amazing today!
    x.o.x.o

  2. great questions this week. and the quote “bloom where you are planted” is brilliant and definitely something so many folks don’t realize or forget. as always, hon, your answers are poignant and spot on. another great vlog!
    on a side not…is that your halter/harness/necklace? fierce!

  3. This was so good. Very well said. I couldn’t with you more … And Thanks for sharing those inspiring thoughts. I have something to ponder over while I recover from my ill-timed cold [summers!??!]

  4. Katie, Leeβ€”Thank you so much!

    Ms. Britβ€”Um, thanks, hon! Glad you like this vlog. I am so flattered by your comment.

    Daisyβ€”Thank you sweetie. I am wearing my Sass & Bide harness from Oz. It’s cool ’cause the back and front are different; one side has a single ring and the straps meet in an X shape, and the other (as I’m wearing it here) is double-ring Y shape.

    Tanviβ€”Thanks, and feel better!

  5. First, I want to say that I truly enjoyed your blogging tips videos that was on IFB recently and congrats on your IFB spotlight! πŸ™‚

    I agree with that quote “Bloom where you’re planted”. I think every blogger comes from their own place and when you make the most of it, everything will come naturally because you love what you do! Sure jealousy can creep up sometimes but you take that as an opportunity to learn and push yourself to where you want to be!

  6. Vahni, what a wonderful VLOG, I LOVE BELLA, and that post of hers is just amazingness, in fact I LOVE all of her posts, she is original, sweet and fierce, she just ROCKS!!! and I went to see Brooke’s blog too, she is definitely inspirational and so are you!!! just BRILLIANT!!!
    PS: LOVE your harness!!!, and you look fabulous!!!

    Have a lovely weekend dear, mwah!!! xoxo

    1. Thank you so much sweetie! I had to quote Bella. It was meant to be.

      Hope you had a lovely weekend too. I need to ask you a couple more questions about the blogger swap, too, by the way. Silly me, I’m still a little confused about the process!

  7. Jealousy is nothing more than a fear of abandonment. I’m not jealous of people and really never search to see who’s jealous of me – I DO agree that jealous could drive you to betterment if you intrepet the right way (if that makes sense)…tho some don/t. All a matter of perspective.

  8. Dude, I LOVE YOU!

    Ahem. Ok, that aside, I was so stoked to see in my Bloglovin’ menu that there was a new G&G vlog. And even more pleasantly surprised to see you mention me and my quote. RAh! Was a honor, V.

    “Bloom where you are planted” actually came from a T-shirt I wore when I was a kid, in the early ’70’s. LOL. I loved the quote and sort of made it my motto. My favorite flowers ARE those flowers you see growing out of cracks in the sidewalks and they are a constant source of inspiration for me. The spindly tomato plant with little tomatoes hanging over a curb. The Love-in-A-Mist blooming like an alien blossom found growing in a crack of sidewalk, in an inch of dirt. The bouquet of miniature daisies found growing in the middle of a neighbor’s drive way. If life can bloom in an inch of dirt, how can I not flourish with all my privileges?

    And your take on jealously is so spot-on: a wasted emotion. There are better things to do and feel than bitterness at another person’s success. And speaking of, wishing you even more success in blog and life, Ms. Blogger Spotlight of the Month. xo. -Bella Q

    1. The lady of the hour…DUDE, I love you too!

      Thanks for the explanation of the awesome saying. It is a brilliant quote that I hope is now simmering in lots of blogger’s minds. It’s all ’cause of you, sweetpea.

      And thank you for your warm wishes. I so appreciate your heartfelt comments and support. Mwah!

    1. How cool is that? We’re ALL on the same wavelength!

      Thanks for your kind words as well. If I can be of any assistance to you as you grow your new venture, do not hesitate to ask!

      A beauty of a weekend to you too, Piper!

    1. Sorry Bella, I think it may have been something with the plugin. I experienced issues as well when I was commenting on another blog. I think it’s good now.

    1. Thanks Lynzy, for your comment and ongoing support. Glad you’re checking out Bella too. There are so many fascinating people out there!

      Have yourself a lovely weekend as well.

  9. This is such a worthwhile video!! Thanks for just telling it straight + reminding us of those important everyday issues that are so commonly overlooked! I look forward to your vlogs! Continue bloomin’ darlin’ !!

    P.S. – Ummmmm and why hasn’t anyone mentioned before that V was running a gun show? Your arms looked so toned + fabulous!! You look so great!

    xo,
    raven

    1. HAAAA! Gun show.Thanks, sweetie. I work soooo freakin’ hard in the gym, so I have to admit it’s nice when I get a compliment like that. I’m kind of a madwoman with the weights.

      I am so glad you find my vlogs interesting and that you and others appreciate my honesty. It’s not always the case!

      Thanks for your support. I can feel your smile right through the screen. A big ol’ hug to you!

  10. Vahni-

    This couldn’t of hit home more today than any other day. I’ve been going through some “tiffs” with people where I’ve been accused of being bitter for not being a popular blogger or what have you…and it got me so bad that I actually started believing those comments…however, now I know that’s not the case. We are all doing something we’re great at. Even though my blog is not something I do for a job, career, etc. I do it because I love it…and for some reason, this video really put that in place. Thanks again<3.

    1. YAY!

      Wow. That is so amazing, Christina. I am so glad my words helped you in some small way.

      I can’t tell you how many haters I’ve had in my life. You know what you feel in your heart, and that is all you should believe. Eliminate people from your life who are negative and full of back-handed compliments. It’s taken me a long time to learn this because I am actually a very forgiving person. Well, until I hit my mid-30s and decided enough is enough. But since I’ve let relationships go in which people did NOT have my best interests at heart, I’ve felt a lot happier.

      Realize that jealousy IS what they are feeling and accusing you of. You’re gorgeous, you’re smart, you’re active within IFB, you are going places. That is enough to royally piss most women off. Sometimes just being you, even when you are generous and nice, is enough to provoke a jealous and insecure person.

  11. Hey! New reader here – loved todays vlog. Jealousy is such a strange thing – or rather, the way people commonly react to their own feelings of jealousy is strange and quite often differs from the way they commonly would react to other feelings they might have. That is, it seems to me jealousy more often than not is a repressed emotion or feeling because people don’t feel comfortable expressing their jealousy as is. Naturally, it wouldn’t be proper or eloquent to express the raw emotion as it exists within you. Moreover, jealousy as it is generally perceived is not a justifiable emotion in the same way that anger, or sadness often is. So while people’s expression of anger or sadness often isn’t seen as proper or eloquent it is at least justifiable (often times), With these things in mind people hide and disguise their jealousy and try and put it out into the world as something other than it is. So, that’s why jealousy is dangerous and why it can be so hard to spot right away.

    I think if we were able to see jealousy as something that is a little more justifiable in the way that it is a natural human reaction to parts of the world around us, than maybe we wouldn’t see it as a “wasted emotion” and we wouldn’t feel the need to manipulate it to make it look like something else. For instance, when we felt jealous we wouldn’t feel the need to bring down another person instead of just admitting our jealousy.

    With all of this said, I think we ought not repress our jealousy but rather embrace it as something valuable – and like you said, as something to motivate us to work harder and fill the void that might be creating the jealousy in the first place.

    Just some thoughts!

    I’ll be back – I love your blog!

    xx Robyn
    rhitbee.blogspot.com πŸ™‚

    1. Thank you Robyn, and welcome!

      You make a great point…how we react to or handle our jealousy is ultimately what makes it a negative or a positive in out lives. Jealously that is transformed into motivation is good. But I think most people who react this way are strong, secure people. They don’t lash outβ€”they use the emotion as a reminder to work harder, and they don’t feel like they need to punish other as a result.

      It’s the insecure people who wreak havoc on others’ lives or react like spoiled children when moving through their feelings of jealousy. They’re the ones that feel like they need to tear you down, and they are the ones who hate you just for being you, even when you’ve done nothing to warrant it.

      Again, an excellent observation. Thank you!

  12. Hello from London, and I hope this finds you well and jealousy free. I have to say what an approach! In an industry full of cats who, upon looking in the mirror, see a lion, ’tis a a brave thing indeed to reveal your soul. To be honest, to admit weakness, to look down the darker corridors of the mind, are the actions of a brave woman. I think without any twinge of jealousy that you look amazing, and I adore the name of your blog. Wishing you high heels, darling handbags, swing coats, red chiffon, black Tom Binns necklaces and much positivity from across the seas ……..your sister in fashion and spirit Lizzi Zita http://www.styleframe.com

    1. Lizzi, sister in fashion, thank you so very much! Wow!!! What an amazing compliment you’ve paid me. Well, several of them, actually. I’m glad you and others appreciate my honesty. That is just the way I am. I don’t understand why so many people think they can’t be nice and genuine just because they have lots of expensive things, or there is a spotlight on them.

      I am so appreciative of your positivity and wonderful wishes. Thank you, doll!

      PS: Style Frame. I’m going to have to check it out in my free time. What is your affiliation with the site?

  13. Amen!!!!
    Keeping on thinking good things and they will happen sweet, brave lady!
    You will one day get to be a fashion designer, because YOU are creative!!!

  14. Another stellar post! I love when you said “Jealousy is a wasted emotion.” So true. And how unfortunate that we can waste our time dwelling and focusing on negativity when we can be looking at all the good out there.

    1. Thanks Katy! I’m so glad you’re asking us such thought -provoking questions. I’ve really come to love Friend Friday, and it’s all because of you!

  15. Wow V!! Thanks so much for the mention. I am completely honored that you would mention a post of mine. You can consider my week officially made!!

    I completely agree that jealousy is a wasted emotion. I’m not a particularly jealous person but I admit there have been times when I’ve let it get the best of me and each time it proved to be a pointless waste of time and energy. Now every time I find myself getting caught up in what somebody else has that I don’t, I switch my focus to all the things I do have going for me and that keeps me motivated.

    Thanks for the reference to Bella’s post. “Bloom where you are planted” is officially my new motto. In fact I’m practically tacking it up on my inspiration board as I type! Great topic and great post!! I know I’ve said this before, but I always look forward to your vlogs!
    Thanks again!
    xx

    1. Brooooooooooooooke!

      Aw, you’re a sweetie. I love “bloom where you are planted” too. You and Bella just popped into my head when I thought about how I wanted to answer these questions. As I’ve said before, blogging, for me at least, is as much about the frivolity and fun of fashion as it is the connections and conversations we are having and making.

      Thanks again for your readership and comment!

  16. A great vlog as usual, V! I think this is a great topic. I try not to let jealousy affect me, in the blogosphere or in real life, but sometimes I’ll see someone who started their blog at around the same time as I did and they will have thrice the amount of followers and I’ll think, “What am I doing wrong? Why don’t people like me?!” ~ I don’t think I would classify that as jealousy, though; just unfair comparisons.

    I think we improve ourselves by emulating others who we admire. It shouldn’t be “copying,” but taking inspiration from others and bringing our own personal flair to it is always good, I think!

    Have a great weekend! πŸ™‚

    1. Leia, even I’ve felt myself making comparisons and feeling bad about where I am versus where other bloggers are. You know what? The moment I stopped trying to build my numbers and started focusing on interacting and creating better content, my numbers went up. I’m focused on the quality of my writing and photography, on which topics are worthy of exploration. Numbers are great, but I must not care that much since I’ve done almost zilch to monetize my blog.

      I agree that emulation isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In reality, there is very little of anything that is truly “original.” As you noted, the originality is imparted by our individual approaches, our own flair. Great point, my dear!

      Hope you had a great weekend.

  17. I love this video. Jealousy is our worse enemy and I am constantly astonished at the behaviour we, women, can sometime display publicly-especially at work. I am afraid to say that since I have been working in a male dominated office (am the only chick) I am much more enjoying the environment :/ But it gives us such a bad image!
    There is room for everyone so I dont get when people get all arsy about things.
    Whether I have one follower or 100, i will make the same effort to thank the people who made the effort of joining and at the end of the day – the blogging experience should not be seen as a competition!

    The more the merrier!

    Fab vlog, once again!

    xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    1. Lady, I had the same experience once. I was the only woman on a team of men. It was bliss. They’re just so much easier to work with, most of the time.

      HAAAAA! “There is room for everyone so I dont get when people get all arsy about things.” I agree. Well-put. I love tht expression. Hysterical. Only you, love, only you.

      Thank you for your comment and compliment!

  18. Yet another amazing Vlog V!
    I totally agree that jealousy is a wasted emotion.
    At the beginning you mentioned that you don’t have alot of female friends perhaps because of jealousy…I can totally relate to that! I have very few female friends and even most of the ones I did have I feel I have lost recently (strangely enough shortly after I opened my shop)
    Anyway…enough of that!
    Hope you have a wonderful weekend, really pleased to hear you’re wearing your dress πŸ™‚
    xo

    1. Thank you Julia!

      OK, so you need to read a rather snarky post of mine related to what you’re experiencing:
      http://www.gritandglamour.com/2009/11/04/losing-friends-and-alienating-people-101/

      Though I hate it for you, I am not surprised that you lost friends after opening your shop. So many women just can’t cope with their feelings of jealousy when someone they know is doing exceptionally well for themselves. You strike me as a strong but sensitive woman, so you just keep doing your thing. I’ve come to realize that I would rather never have another friend who is high-emotional-maintenance. If that means I have only two or three friends, that’s fine. One true friend is really more than enough.

      More on the dress next week, sweetie, stay tuned!

      1. That was a great post! Thank you for pointing me too it.
        I can totally relate to that!
        I totally agree, I would far rather have a couple of quality friends than waste time on people that clearly don’t deserve it.
        xo

  19. You are really cool. I loved the video, I can just tell you’re a cool chick. This is a great topic. In the real world, I try to be helpful to those I am jealous of, and to others in general, when I’m being of service to others, I feel much better about myself and there’s less room for jealousy. As for bloggers, I too am jealous of the ones who get the perks, but overall I just kick myself for getting into blogging so late in the game. Elizabeth at Cupcakes and Cashmere has a fabulous blog, but honestly, and I don’t mean this in a nasty way, there are lots of comparable blogs out there, it’s just that she started 2 years ago when blogging was kind of new. That’s the only thing I really get jealous of. Fabulous vlog! XO!

    1. Cool?! Thank you, Shari. I appreciate that. In my book, cool is a good thing to be!

      Blogging is competitive, and I do believe a lot of famous bloggers are kind of much ado about nothing. That said, there is likely a little bit of “it’s know what you know, but who you know” going on. I wouldn’t be surprised.

      Thanks again for your compliment and for sharing your thoughts!

  20. I’m jealous of your arms and that way cool outfit you were wearing. What was that necklace thingy? I’m jealous that you can pull something like that off when I would just look like I was trying too hard.

    That said and done, jealousy is pretty boring. Like you said, if you want it you’re going to have to work for it. And, lots of times I find out that the people who have what I want don’t have something I have, and they’re jealous of me for that.

    1. HAAA! You’re funny. But thank you.

      The necklace thingy is actually a harness from Sass & Bide. One of my fave pieces from my a couple of my fave designers. You can also see it better here: http://www.gritandglamour.com/2010/04/13/wvw-into-the-wild/

      And you’re right. We all have things we are jealous of, but we never think about what WE have that might make others jealous. Not that that is the right approach. We just need to remember our strengths and blessings, and use them to design the lives we want for ourselves.

      Thanks for commenting, doll!

    1. Wow, thank you Marissa! I appreciate that.

      And your ears have not betrayed you. There is a twinge of a southern accent because I’m from North Carolina, and damn proud of it!

      Thanks for your ongoing support. I appreciate it!

    1. You’re right Wendy. I think it’s just that men don’t seem to pretend it’s all good as much as women do. I think there’s less B.S. with men.

  21. I like to channel my jealousy in to an unwasteful emotion– it’s an incredibly powerful emotion and I think an incredibly insightful one. If you don’t use it, yes, it’s totally wasteful. But if we step back from ourselves, look at our feelings critically, and evaluate WHAT it is that is making us jealous…. than we can turn it in to something productive and creative and fulfilling. You know, why be jealous of Bonnie Blogger’s opportunities– why not contact her and ask for advice? Jealous that another blogger freelances? Just try it out. I find that, a lot of the times, that I’m too damn lazy to put in the work needed to have what I’m jealous of, you know? It helps me evaluate what’s important in my life and what I really want…

      1. Ashe, I agree wholeheartedly that jealousy can be enormously powerful when harnessed and used productively. It does help one gain clarity about the reality of what it might take to have that thing you are jealous of. Salient points. I just wish more people were able to do that instead of allowing their jealousy to manifest itself as bitterness and backbiting.

        Thank you for your thoughtful comment and your support, doll!

  22. I just want to say I loved this post very much and I found it pertained very much to certain things I’ve been feelings as a new blogging. It can be quite overwhelming to see people far ahead of you and sometimes I need to be reminded to take it one step at a time. I also need to step back and appreciate where I am a lot more and I know that. I have been dealt some very unexpected cards that haven’t been good in my life at it’s present time and to get a semi-pep talk like this really helps me to stay on task and focus on what I really want and hope to obtain in the future. I will definitely be doing a repost on this and credit you. I also loved the quote “grow where you are planted” because it pretty much speaks for itself. Continue to do posts like this and I will definitely be following as a result.

    1. Angelena~

      Welcome! Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. I’m glad this post resonated with you and had a positive impact. I do hope you will stop by again soon.

  23. I wanted to do this post, but have been so ridiculously tied up that I missed out on the chance. I like that you do videos instead of writing it out, and you’re so honest that I really appreciate what you put out there on this particular topic. I think my blog envies lie with the fact that I don’t get to do as much of it as I’d like and it’s not because I’m out enjoying this fabulous jetset life, but more because I’m working a crappy job and trying to help out at home… I just wonder, how do you get there? Some of these blogs are amazing, it’s like living vicariously, but coming back to reality gets a little rough sometimes… Let me avoid sounding like a nut by adding the disclaimer that I love the people in my life, but mostly wish I had a better job, but doesn’t everyone?

    1. Miss ED, thanks for sharing your perspective. How do you get there? It’s a valid question. My belief is that you keep on striving to overcome technical challenges, you keep focused on quality, original content, even if you post less often. Really, it comes down to your intent. Do you want more readers? Do you want to make blogging full-time? Do you want free swag? Do you want a better looking blog? What you do really depends on your answer(s).

      I can identify with your frustration…my blog is not my job and some days it’s hard to find the time or energy. As much as I’d love to blog full-time for oodles of money, I haven’t had the inclination to monetize. And I also know my blog can’t compete with my paycheck…it would take YEARS and a gazillion ads to replace my full-time job income. So I suppose you really need to ask yourself what you want, what you are willing to sacrifice, and then go from there. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither is any blog. Baby steps. One thing on any given day toward your goal. And you should also reach out to bloggers you respect and see what they’re doing or have done and do the same thing!

      Good luck with it all sweetie.

  24. ok, so can i just tell you that i tried watching this video like four other times while i was getting a bar of internet in tuscany and it just wasn’t happening. so i finally was able to watch it now that i’m home and i’m so so so in awe of you all over again. i really love this video. jealousy is such a problem, especially between women. and i, too, have had a hard time finding females to cultivate relationships with because they have a difficult time “quelling those negative emotions” as you so eloquently put it! we all experience this feeling from time to time, but what you said about being able to recognize when it starts to happen and dealing with it before it becomes a problem… that’s so important and so valuable. on the personal level, it helps make life sweeter and better. on the grander scale, it’s the way that we as women will be able to continue moving forward instead of keeping each other down.

    such an inspiring post!! i’m so glad to be blogger friends with you. you’re truly a wonderful example of a strong, smart woman who can still love fashion and be beautiful without compromising intelligence or strength of character. you’re one of the people i had in mind when i was writing that bit in my post about fashion and feminism. =)

    1. Kristy…I’ve missed you, hon, but I am so glad you have some down time with your love.

      First, thank you so much for your last statement…I am enormously flattered. And I think the same of you! I’m not surprised to hear you’ve had the same issues. You’re drop-dead gorgeous, smart as hell, funny, talented, stylish…it provokes jealousy in people. But I think that we as women, as you wrote, need to move forward instead of keeping each other down. That comes through commenting, support, knowledge sharing, and genuine affection for each other. Easier said than done, for some. I just think the best thing to do is lead by example. And you certainly are, bella!

      1. awww!! thank you for the sweetness. i have missed you too. having been away from blogs for awhile i can now safely say that i am addicted to them. my boyfriend says i talk about my favorite bloggers as though they are real-life friends. to which i responded… they are real-life friends. we just live far away from each other. =P

        and i’m in complete accord with everything you said. and it’s definitely easier said than done for some people. starting, as with everything, is the hardest part. but i genuinely believe that once a woman learns how to get over those negative emotions, she’ll never turn back. it’s such a wonderful, freeing feeling to not be held back by such thoughts. if more women knew that, they wouldn’t waste their time with it. you’re right about leading by example. and we’ll continue to do so ’til we’ve changed the world. =P

  25. Great responses especially to number #5.

    I think people (myself included) forget how great we have it where we are, and how much room to grow there is if we try hard enough. For instance, I would love to move to NY right now, but really I should remember that Chicago is a great place to be, especially as the fashion industry starts to expand itself here. This just makes me realize that I have to acknowledge and be thankful for what I have here at home. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    1. Hi Elsie, thank you for your comment! It is a challenge to count your blessings, it really is. But Chicago is totally happening, and you have an H&M!!! Honey, there is nothing close to a fashion scene in my hometown. Chicago makes my town look like Mayberry.

      Thanks again for chiming in here…I appreciate your perspective.

  26. I’m a little late to this post but I wanted to comment because I’ve dealt with this and have done much to work through these emotions and have grown from it.

    I used to find myself saying, “how could they have X! I want X. I want what seems to be perfect. My life is boring/awful, etc”

    When you sit down and really are honest with yourself you begin to realize that most of the time you don’t want exactly what they have. You want the feeling and the accomplishment that comes with what they have. What they have took a lot of work or luck but it doesn’t apply to you. It’s about them.

    The only cure to jealousy I’ve ever found is to get completely aligned with want I’m supposed to be doing. What I want. Not what I think I’m supposed to want, or look like on paper, or be. What I really wish for. When you are successful at achieving your real desires and dreams you don’t wish for any other path and you’ll be happy that others’ have met with success too.

    It’s a difficult balance for sure, though.

    1. Hi Piper…welcome, sweetie!

      Thank you so much for your thoughtfelt and honest response. You make excellent points! I love this:

      The only cure to jealousy I’ve ever found is to get completely aligned with want I’m supposed to be doing. What I want. Not what I think I’m supposed to want, or look like on paper, or be. What I really wish for. When you are successful at achieving your real desires and dreams you don’t wish for any other path and you’ll be happy that others’ have met with success too.

      IF only more of us could listen to ourselves and realize that WE must action our dreams and what we want. It doesn’t just materialize.

  27. I don’t mean to offend, but I did want to point out that the correct word is ‘envy’, not ‘jealousy’. You envy other people. You are jealous (almost obsessively protective) of what you own.

    Other than that, I want to thank you for this video. Very insightful, and this is a topic that I’ve encountered a bit personally. <3

    1. Missweet, thanks for the definition. Semantics aside, jealousy is also “resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another’s success or advantage itself.” That said, jealousy and envy often go hand in hand, and that is what we’re talking about hereβ€”not much of a distinction is made between the two in modern usage. Regardless, it is my opinion that envy is essentially the root of jealousy anyway. And when you scratch below that, it is insecurity in its worst manifestation.

  28. this is what I need to listen too…thanks for Kristy in sharing about this…you have opened my eyes about blogging…thank you so much for this V…

    and I love the questions…about bloggers jealousy and the negativity…

    Kisses
    Sweet
    PensandLens

    1. And thank you for all your comments! I’m glad you and so many others connected with this post, because the last thing we need to do is waste our time being jealous. Unless we can recognize it, check it, and harness it as a catalyst for self improvement, it is so counterproductive.

  29. Thank you Vahni. I too have struggled with female friendships due to jealousy. Sometimes being friends with women is difficult and thus I only have a few close friends. I love your mom’s answer to the grass being greener. That really helped me today.
    Also, I love your necklace or the adornment on your blouse, I couldn’t tell which it was but it rocks!

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