When it comes to fidelity, whether married or not, I am of one mind: dilly-dally, and it’s DONE. There is no I’m sorry. There is no it was just sex. There is no reconciliation or forgiveness or trying anew. In my relationships, I am unequivocal about cheating. Don’t test my Greek temper. Hell indeed hath no fury.
Since my stance on infidelity has always been very black and white, it always shocks me when women are able to stay with a man who has betrayed them. It takes an incredible amount of forgiveness and fortitude to do that. I think most times, when a woman choses to stay with a man who has lain with another woman and lied to her face, it is usually because there is a lot of money involved, or children, or abuse. Otherwise, I think most women who catch their men in flagrante delicto would tell them to take a long walk on a short pier.
The unfortunate thing about forgiving a cheater is they know they have gotten away with murder, the murder of a bond once shared. And while some actually learn from their actions, I think in adulthood, once you’ve gotten away with it, what’s to stop you from doing it again?
And so the story seems to go with that schmuck of a U.S. senator, Mark Sanford. After being caught in an affair by his wife, she chose to stick by him (typical for wives of politicos). OK. Give it another go.
South Carolina’s first lady Jenny Sanford sat in her oceanfront living room Friday, recalling how her husband repeatedly asked permission to visit his lover in the months after she discovered his affair.
“I said absolutely not. It’s one thing to forgive adultery. It’s another thing to condone it,” Jenny Sanford said during a 20-minute interview – her first extended comments on the affair.
HE ASKED PERMISSION TO VISIT HIS LOVER? And lived past that day? WTF?
The audacity. The stupidity. The insensitivity. I am thoroughly appalled.
See…you give an inch and they take a mile. I say if someone is capable of having a long-term affair, of lying to your face, there is no redemption. Send him (or her) packing. Thank goodness that after Senator Sanford’s disappearing act (he went to see his mistress anyway), Mrs. Sanford came to her senses and gave him his walking papers. Cause no one deserves that.
I agree. Way to go, Jenny Sanford!