Elle Mag. June 2007 issue, page 204: “Yes, you do look fat in that!” by Walter Kirn.
Ladies, get yourselves to Target, the bookstore, wherever and read this article even if you don’t buy the magazine. Because we ALL need this insight. Here’s an excerpt:
“When you point our your imperfections to men, you’re actually forcing us to see something we were perfectly happy to overlook, and probably wouldn’t have noticed in the first place. Now why would you go and do something like that?”
I don’t know a single woman who doesn’t audibly lament the size her her derriere, stretch marks, huge thighs…[fill in the blank]. I’m definitely a repeat offender. And although I have had a man in my life point out exactly what Mr. Kirn points out in his article, for some reason, I haven’t taken it to heart. Til now.
Think about it. If you were on a job interview, would you point out all your shortcomings, failings, and ineptitude, or would you sell them on your talents, achievements, and enviable skills? There is really no difference between a job interview and the getting-to-know-you phase of any relationship. Now, I certainly don’t advocate that you actually vocalize how hot your bod looks in skinny jeans, but if you can’t say something nice about yourself, just shut the hell up! Drawing attention to hangups you have about your own body is the equivalent of taking a bullhorn to the pool and announcing, Everyone! Will you take a look at the cellulite on my a**!
Just. Don’t. Do. It.
I leave you with this quote, also from the article…
“…I knew the Creator was a straight man. He’d made his Eves all different yet all the same, and when one of them disrobed in my presence, what always struck me wasn’t her individual allure, but the genius behind the general design.”